Beyond the Noisy World: The Long Lost Eight Sects: 018, imaginary audience

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Ding Qiben was a little worried, whether the child was curious about seeing the latest online news, so he specifically registered to make an appointment, the purpose is to "see" Ding Qi himself, then this consultation can not be done. But when Gao Xiaofei walked in, Ding Qi's heart was half relieved, and the other party came to seek help from the psychological counselor, not to meet him, the "Jinghu celebrity".

Needless to say a word, only one eye contact can make a judgment. Gao Xiaofei appeared a little nervous when he entered the room, and after seeing Ding Qi, he lowered his head, curious about everything in the counseling room, and it was a normal response of the seeker. To Ding Qi, a consultant, he didn't reveal any meaning to compare with the impression already in his heart.

This shows that the high school student either hadn't heard of the recent "Jinghu Ankang Hospital Incident", or he didn't care much about it. He always had no impression of Ding Qi at all. It seems that not everyone is paying attention to this incident. Even if they heard about it, many people did not deliberately remember him Ding Qi.

The height of the sixteen-year-old boy is already close to 1.8 meters, and his size is about the same as Ding Qi. The children now have better nutrition than before, and they generally develop earlier, even though they are slightly thinner.

Ding Qi stood up and smiled gently and said: "Xiao Gao, right? Please sit down. May I help you?" He poured a glass of water for Gao Xiaofei and sat down with him.

After sitting down, Gao Xiaofei was nervous and a little shy. He straightened his hair and said: "Teacher, have you found something wrong with me?"

Actually, he discovered Ding Qi as soon as he entered the door. There was a band-aid on the back of his left hand, but Ding Qi didn’t break it. He didn’t deliberately look at his left hand when he spoke. Whatever abnormalities you have, whether it is the appearance, posture, expression, and tone of voice, it is all normal.

The psychological problem of your appointment registration is emotional anxiety. There are many kinds of emotional anxiety, and the reasons are also different. Can you tell me by yourself? "

Gao Xiaofei's reaction was not disappointment, but heaved a sigh of relief, raised his left hand and said, "Teacher, I have a stubborn on the back of my hand." He said that he took off the band-aid, revealing a bean-sized piece. Wart.

Ding Qi nodded and said: "I saw it, is this wart causing your psychological distress? Can you tell me specifically, how do you feel?"

The wart on the back of Gao Xiaofei's left hand grew out two months ago. According to his own observations, the situation has been stable for the past month, and the wart has not grown bigger. He finds it ugly, and when he thinks of this wart, he feels awkward, and even sleeps and eats a little. He vaguely felt that he had become different, and he was very worried, but he didn't know what he was worried about.

After listening to the self-report of the helper, Ding Qi held back a smile and showed a very concerned expression. This is indeed a psychological problem, and it is a typical adolescent psychological problem. If you are an elderly person, you may worry about your health, and even doubt whether there will be cancer, etc., but the child's focus is not on these.

Ding Qi asked again: "Why don't you go to the hospital for a visit?" It's just a small bean-sized wart, and going to the hospital for treatment is just a small surgical operation. Gao Xiaofei came to pay 600 for a psychological consultation, which was enough for him to deal with this wart.

Gao Xiaofei replied: "I also checked it online. The internet said that the wart will heal itself after a while, but there is no way to prevent it, and it may grow. I have also found that liquid nitrogen and lasers are used. Surgical removal is difficult to remove the roots, and it will leave scars or pigmentation. The other method is to take medicine, but I feel that taking medicine is definitely not good..."

Actually, Ding Qi had already thought of surgical resection just now. Although he is only a psychiatrist, not a surgeon, this is really a small operation. As long as there are simple instruments and disinfection equipment, he is now The wart can be removed, and the mental health center also has a surgical first aid kit.

But this is a psychological consultation room, not a surgical treatment room. He stopped the thought, but smiled and asked: "These are all checked on Baidu Encyclopedia... Xiao Gao, do you want it every day? Look in the mirror many times?"

Gao Xiaofei was startled: "How did you know?"

Ding Qi: "The trouble you are encountering is indeed a psychological problem. Many adolescents will be like this. You are dissatisfied with your own image because you have a stubborn on the back of your hand. This is not just a stubborn. It’s because you feel distressed and don’t know what makes you a satisfactory image..."

Next is a chat-style conversation. Many people, especially men, take more times to look in the mirror when there is no need for reality, adolescence may be more than the other periods of their lives combined. Adolescents have a high degree of self-attention, which is an inevitable phenomenon that accompanies the development of self-consciousness and gradually matures.

Strong self-esteem but often lack of self-confidence corresponds to their mental and physical state that they often think they have grown up, but in fact they are not real adults. There is a very prominent psychological phenomenon in adolescence called "imaginary audience", which is to create an audience that may not exist psychologically. While paying attention to oneself, they also think that others are paying attention to him or her.

When you compliment yourself, you think that everyone will praise it, and when you are disappointed, you think everyone will be disappointed. Such repeated mood swings often lead to inner anxiety.

The psychological feature of "imaginary audience" still exists in adulthood, but it is not as prominent as adolescence. When people look in the mirror when they are not necessary, they are actually imagining the audience, and this mentality is not just as simple as looking in the mirror.

If adults are stimulated by some kind of stimulation, they will re-evoke a strong "imaginary audience" psychology and amplify various emotional experiences. For example, Ding Qi himself, he has indeed become a celebrity in Jinghu recently, but in reality, how many people really know him? After the hot spots subsided, most people really remember that it was not Ding Qi himself, but a certain role he played in this incident, and no irrelevant person would stare at him every day.

However, when most people encounter things like him, they often feel that they are the center of attention of the public, and every move seems to be monitored by people, which makes them feel pressured.

In a short time, Ding Qi will be forgotten by the public. Unless he deliberately mentions it again on a special occasion, unless it is directly related to him or the matter, no one will take it seriously. Ding Qi is just a little psychological counselor, not a public figure familiar to the public.

Today, facing such a 16-year-old boy in the counseling room, Ding Qi is also adjusting his mentality while doing psychological counseling.

Ding Qi and Gao Xiaofei talked about the various psychological characteristics of adolescence and the nature of the troubles Gao Xiaofei felt, and finally said: "I will send you a word again-there is poetry in the belly."

Gao Xiaofei smiled and looked at the back of his hand and said: "But this brat, I still have to be treated, but I am quite afraid of going to the hospital."

Ding Qi: "You told your parents that your parents didn't take it seriously, did they?"

Gao Xiaofei frowned again: "Indeed, it's impossible to communicate!"

Ding Qi tried to play it down as much as possible: "This is really nothing, just a little brat. Your problem is puberty. This time the 600 yuan for psychological counseling is also the pocket money you usually save, right? It seems that you take yourself seriously!"

Gao Xiaofei: "My parents are busy at work, but they usually give a lot of pocket money. Last year's New Year's money added up to several thousand. I can still afford 600 yuan."

This consultation meeting has ended, and there is actually no need to proceed to the next time. Before Gao Xiaofei left, Ding Qi said again: “I will give you a personal suggestion, not a counselor’s suggestion. When I was a child, I also had a stubborn child. Someone told me to order a little bit of white vinegar every day with nine degrees of white vinegar, and then it would fall by itself. Yes. You can try it after you go back. If it doesn’t work, you should go to the hospital for a minor operation. It’s very simple."

When Ding Qi stood up and said these words, he was actually out of work as a psychologist. It feels good to focus on work again, and Ding Qi feels that he has found his familiar self again, but he also knows in his heart that this is probably the last time he has had psychological counseling at the school's mental health center.

When Gao Xiaofei left, Ding Qi did not go out to the office, but stood behind the door and waited. He wanted to confirm his judgment. As expected, within two minutes, there was a knock on the door, and Ding Qi immediately opened the door. The door opened so fast, but Zhong Dafang who knocked on the door was shocked.

Although Ding Qi guessed that this scene might happen, when it did happen, he was also sighing in his heart. There was a sense of disappointment that could not be concealed. He said blankly: "Brother Dafang, are you looking for me? "

When Ding Qi came to work at the Mental Health Center for the first time, he saw Dali Zhong and called Director Zhong. But Zhong Dafang shook his head exaggeratedly, telling him not to call him that, and he must be called Senior Brother Dafang in the future. This senior is also very generous and caring to him on weekdays, just like his name.

A lot of information can be reflected from the address. For example, many graduate students now call their supervisors the boss, but Liu Feng refused this name, and kept asking students to call him their supervisor. Even though Ding Qi had already established a romantic relationship with Jiajia, this habit has never been changed, whether in public or in private.

Today, I heard Ding Qi yell again Dafang Brother, Zhong Dafang's expression was a bit awkward, and he quickly said in a concerned tone: "Xiao Ding, I didn’t expect that there will be a helper to make an appointment for you today. I thought you wouldn’t Come here."

Ding Qi replied indifferently: "Since my brand is hung up, someone has to turn it over! I am considered famous now, even if it is because of curiosity, some people will turn it over. But. It’s a bit unfortunate today. The person who made the appointment just now didn’t hear about the incident at the Ankang Hospital in Transit Lake City. He doesn’t know who I am."

Zhong Dafang: "Junior Brother Xiaoding, you seem to have misunderstood. You did not ask for leave on Monday. Putting your name on the appointment list is also a normal procedure."

Ding Qi: "Brother, you don't need to be circumspect. They are all professional. Who can't see through the prudent eyes. If you want me to take the initiative to leave, just say it straight. You don't need to make such a big bend! "

Zhong Dafang seems to have been wronged, and said in a reproachful tone: "Junior Brother Xiaoding, where do you start?"

Ding Qi looked into his eyes and said: "Aren't you here to persuade me to leave? lest you go find a reason to fire me."

Zhong Dafang's expression flinched a little, but he still said: "Is there anything that can't be expelled? Your labor and personnel relationship was originally at Jinghu University, and the mental health center of the school was just a labor cooperation."

The corner of Ding Qi's mouth showed a hint of sarcasm: "I'm still right!"

Zhong Dafang hesitated and said: "Actually, a helper complained to you, saying that the advice you gave was actually to let a woman who is no longer fertile enough to have another child. This caused a lot of trouble for her. Irritation and injury."

Ding Qi: "You can simply say that Hong Guirong won it, why conceal it. Brother, you are also Tian Qi's appraiser, have you contacted Tian Xianglong and Hong Guirong privately?"

Zhong Dafang looked slightly surprised, and then turned away from the subject: "Xiao Ding, can we go in and sit down and say."

Ding Qi replied bluntly: "No, just stand here and say, or don't say it!"

Zhong Dafang looked at no one else in the corridor, and then lowered his voice: "Xiao Ding, I know you are emotional. But you should have heard of the meeting yesterday. The school leadership specifically pointed out that the center should be based on the school. Regarding your handling opinions and making your own handling decisions, don’t you understand what it means? It’s not that I want to embarrass you...

Before he finished speaking, Ding Qi interrupted: "The tutor is still there, when did Brother Dafang become the head of the center?"

The mental health center is separated from the school affiliated hospital. Although it belongs to Jinghu University in terms of administrative relations, it is managed independently. In terms of personnel, Jinghu University is only responsible for appointing the leadership of the center. As for the appointment of doctors and nurses, the center is autonomous.

It is impossible for school leaders to directly hire the center’s consultants and psychiatrists. On the one hand, because the center is an independent organization, on the other hand, because the professionalism of this kind of thing is too strong, it is really impossible for laymen to get involved.

So Jinghu University can directly expel Ding Qi from the faculty team and expel his student status, but he cannot be directly dismissed from the Mental Health Center. From a procedural point of view, this should be a decision made by the mental health center itself. It is said that the school leaders have already given instructions at the meeting, and Ding Qi's dismissal is inevitable, but there is no need for such a hurry, and there is no need for Zhong Dafang to jump out.

Ding Qi clearly didn’t want to talk, but Zhong Dafang didn’t get angry. Instead, he continued to explain in a low voice: “Our tutor is a rare good tutor. He has always taken care of students so much. Do something like this? But the school leaders have already given instructions, and the center has to do it again. This is embarrassing the tutor!

I know that the tutor is difficult to do. It is neither possible to let the tutor offend the school leader, nor to let the tutor pull his face to expel his student, so I can only be the villain. After being taught and taken care of by the mentor for so many years, we should also share the worries for him..."

Ding Qi sneered and interrupted: "Should I call you a good Chinese brother? The school leader's instructions, the instructor has not had time to do it, you rushed to do it, it will really give the leader a worry! But you It’s not a responsibility, but it’s a fall. I thought it was Tian Xianglong and Hong Guirong who fell into the pit, but I didn’t expect it to be Dafang Brother. How can I say hello, praise you as a good leader, a good student, and a good subordinate? "

This is equivalent to swearing at the nose. Zhong Dafang’s mental quality is really good, as if he didn’t care about Ding Qi at all, or he was just a two-skinned face, still whispering: "Even if it’s purely professional From a point of view, the mental health center is not suitable for hiring you again. I think you understand the reason..."

Zhong Dafang explained for a long time, Ding Qi only sighed in his heart. In fact, he knew that he would be fired by the center, just when and in what way. Even if Tutor Liu Feng doesn't speak, if Zhong Dafang finds him in a few days, Ding Qi will not make the tutor embarrassed, and he will leave.

Moreover, his labor and personnel relationship is not in the mental health center. As long as the center no longer arranges his appointment registration, he will not be able to come to work in the future, which will naturally terminate the employment relationship, and no one needs to be embarrassed. However, Zhong Dafang was too anxious and took the initiative to take the initiative. On the one hand, it may be to please the school leaders, and the reason on the other hand is probably not easy to say.

Even if he is a psychologist, Ding Qi wouldn't just think about everyone around him. It's so tired. He didn't realize until today that this generous senior didn't like him. I am afraid that from the beginning, he was repelling him from the bottom of his heart. This mentality has been suppressed for several years without knowing it.

Zhong Dafang was the first batch of PhDs brought by Liu Feng. Now he is the second in command of the Mental Health Center and is regarded as Liu Feng's professional successor. From the internal perspective of Jinghu University, his professional status is second only to Yu Liufeng. But such a difference is a world of difference. Liu Feng also occupies the position of director of the center. As long as his old man does not give up his seat, Zhong Dafang seems to never have room for improvement.

Liu Feng is like a mountain. No matter what angle he looks at, Zhong Dafang feels that he is overwhelmed. In the same situation, different people have different feelings. For example, Ding Qi would feel that he was sheltered by the big tree Liu Feng, while Zhong Dafang would feel that he was always living in the shadow of Liu Feng. It's not his turn.

Liu Feng's support and cultivation of Ding Qi are also significantly better than Zhong Dafang. There is a mountain like Liu Feng in front of him, and Ding Qi is catching up from behind, and one day he will be squeezed aside. This may be Zhong Dafang's mentality. So Ding Qi could only sigh. Could it be that after a certain system is rusty, can you only see such a thing in front of you?

Something happened to Ding Qi, is Zhong Dafang gloating? Ding Qi is not suspicious and sensitive, but he is very keen. The things he didn't expect were often just because he hadn't thought about it before.

Yesterday, I suddenly received a notice from Zhong Dafang @他 from the WeChat work group, and Ding Qi figured out something wrong. After finishing the psychological consultation today, he wanted to verify his judgment, but Zhong Da Fangguo couldn't wait to find the consultation room. In the conversation just now, Zhong Dafang mentioned Hong Guirong's "complaint" again, and Ding Qi thoroughly verified some of his speculations.