Beyond the Noisy World: The Long Lost Eight Sects: 054, if the sky is love, the sky is also old

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Shang Ni went out the day before yesterday. Yesterday she visited another scenic spot. She met a fortune teller in the scenic spot. Now she knows that the person is Zhuang Mengzhou, but she was completely a stranger at the time. people. As a descendant of the style, Shang Ni couldn't help but want to show off her skills when she came out to walk the rivers and lakes for the first time. She knew all the routines.

Shang Ni has some thoughts of mischief. When she sees a deceived fortune teller, she wants to tease and expose the other party's deceptive tricks. She took the initiative to run over to strike up a conversation, but when the fortune-teller spoke, he bluffed her for a moment, never knowing him but knowing things like a god, and saying everything is accurate!

Shang Ni almost thought that she had met a god, and she obediently paid for it, but after all she was still a little unconvinced, so she said to the fortune teller: "You count all the things that have happened before, can you? Predict what will happen in the future? If the future things can also be calculated accurately, that's the ability!"

As a result, the fortune teller smiled and started another hexagram, predicting that they would meet again soon, and said with a smile that he would return the hexagram gold to her when they met. The result was really fulfilled!

Shang Ni is not stupid. When I met today, I knew that the visitor was Zhuang Mengzhou, and Zhuang Mengzhou had been invited by Xianhua, so I immediately understood what was going on. Since Xianhua specifically mentioned Shangni to Zhuang Mengzhou, she must have also introduced a lot of her situation, maybe Zhuang Mengzhou also specifically inquired about it, maybe it's weird!

Everyone laughed after listening. Zhuang Mengzhou had already taken out the three hundred dollars, but Shang Ni didn't accept it. She blinked her eyes and said, "You said that you will return the gold to me when you meet, but I don't want it, so you still haven't fully calculated it!" /

Shi Buquan took the money over and put it back in Shanni's hand and said, "Junior sister, you have been caught up in a routine. You deliberately made him inaccurate. It is not his own money that has been lost? There is nothing to lose! What is there to be angry with seniors?"

Shang Ni is still stiff: "Even if you pay the tuition."

Zhu Shan chuckled and said: "Three hundred yuan tuition is not enough for this Jianghu class. Mr. Zhuang is just joking with you."

Shi Buquan had already stuffed the money into her hands, and Shanny had collected the three hundred yuan anyway.

Ding Qi laughed aside, and at the same time remembered a principle in sociology. Excellent psychologists must also study sociology. Ding Qi has been a teacher of social psychology, and his tutor Liu Feng is an excellent sociologist. Sociology has a principle that it only takes three transmissions at most about the relationship between strangers.

In short, in an open, interpersonal group, no matter how large the group is, two complete strangers who want to contact each other, do not exceed three intermediate passes at most . The specific expression is explained in mathematical terms in the book.

For example, Zhang San, the people he knows are a set of mathematics, called A. The so-called acquaintance does not refer to people who have heard of it unilaterally, but acquaintances who actually know each other and can make contact with each other. A represents Zhang San’s acquaintances, B represents Li Si’s acquaintances, and Li Si and Zhang San are completely unfamiliar.

Then there must be an intersection C between A and B, and at the same time they are acquaintances of A and acquaintances of B. That is to say, the transfer of the relationship between Zhang San and Li Si does not exceed three times at most. In mathematical terms, it’s not easy to understand. You can give the most extreme example. An ordinary farmer in a remote mountainous area wants to have a relationship with the chairman of the country. How many people need to pass through?

In theory, there are three people at most!

Don't talk about special cases, just talk about the most common cases. This farmer does not know the state leader, but he will definitely know some village leaders, such as the village director of their village.

Among the village leaders A he knows, someone must know the county leaders C. This is the first pass.

Of the county and city leaders C, there must be someone who knows the provincial leader B. This is the second pass.

And among the provincial leaders B, there must be someone who has dealt with national leaders. This is the third pass.

The above is just an extreme example, and in most cases, the relationship between strangers does not need to be passed three times at all, usually one or two times are enough. For example, before today, Ding Qi didn't know Zhuang Mengzhou at all, but after two passes by Zhu Shanxian and Xianhua, he arrived at Zhuang Mengzhou.

Ding Qi talked about this in class before, and his teacher himself didn't have a deep understanding, but now he really understands this principle and its greatness. Sometimes, the stranger you think may seem like a stranger to you, but in fact it is not strange to you at all. It is this kind of routine that is used in many times.

For example, Ding Qi didn't know Fan Yang at all, but it cannot be said that Fan Yang didn't know Ding Qi. If it happened on an unexpected occasion, Fan Yang would also pretend to be a fortune teller, he might be able to fool Ding Qi for a while. Especially in the era of big data where the Internet information is so developed, whether strangers are really strange, sometimes depends on whether the other person is interested.

The book Ye Xing recommended to him didn't introduce this kind of shocking routine. Ding Qi himself wanted to understand. He was thinking about it here, and he heard Zhuang Mengzhou say: "Teacher Ding, I want to chat with you alone."

Here again, almost everyone is the same! Ding Qi knew that it was inevitable, so he stood up and said: "Mr. Zhuang, where are we going to talk?"

Zhuang Mengzhou: "Let’s go to the backyard to chat, move two chairs, and watch the scenery while chatting."

They all went to the backyard with a chair, opened the door of the yard, and sat there chatting. Zhuang Mengzhou asked, of course, how they discovered Xiaojinghu, and Ding Qi was the best introducer. Speaking from the beginning again, when Ding Qi put Tian Qi, Tu Zhi, and Lu Fang into a deep hypnotic state, the spiritual world of the three people showed the same scene...

But Zhuang Mengzhou not only listened to Ding Qi's introduction, but occasionally interjected questions, but also asked the key points. Inserting key questions in the introductory conversation is what psychologists do most often, but the situation at the moment seems to be the other way around.

For example, when introducing Tian Qi, Zhuang Mengzhou interjected: "I have also read online reports on the incident at Jinghu Ankang Hospital. If that Tian Qi does not die, will your tutor always be life-threatening?" /

What else can Ding Qi say, so he nodded. Zhuang Mengzhou asked again: "From your professional point of view, Tian Qi should actually commit suicide, right?" Then he added, "In fact, you not only saved the tutor, but you might also save the Tian Xianglong and his wife. Is it?"

Ding Qi was really surprised this time. What he described was all related to discovering Xiaojinghu, not about these private details. For example, he only said that Tian Qi had been to such a place under deep hypnosis, and he neither stated clearly about his special talents, let alone the cause of Tian Qi's death.

Some things he only discussed with his mentor Liu Feng, and some things he never said or explained to anyone. Now I have asked Zhuang Mengzhou to point it out, especially the sentence added by Zhuang Mengzhou, which made Ding Qi very moved and grateful. It is rare that there is such a stranger who understands him very well

While the two were talking, Zhou Mengzhuang’s gaze would look outside from time to time. It should be overlooking Nantuoshan Forest Park, but it gave people the feeling that they were sometimes looking at the non-existent scenery, and I didn’t know him. I saw something or did I see it.

After Ding Qi introduced the process of searching and discovering Xiaojinghu, Zhou Mengzhuang asked abruptly: "There is a term in psychology called empathy. What is more specific, can I, a layman, ask Ding Teacher?"

Ding Qi smiled and said: "Mr. Zhuang, you are not like a layman."

Zhuang Mengzhou also laughed: "The threshold of the shocking door, first of all, is the word shock, which makes people feel surprised. Dealing with the three hundred and sixty lines of the world may feel like an expert. But how is it actually possible? It’s just a feeling."

Ding Qi: "Compassion is not only an attitude, it is also a technique that psychologists must master. The simple explanation is not to start from your own feelings, but to experience things from the other's feelings. , Empathize with the other party."

Zhuang Mengzhou: "If it’s such a simple explanation, I don’t need to ask you this expert. Starting from the other person’s feelings to experience things, how do people know the other’s feelings, and how to make the other’s feelings become their own Feeling? Since it is a technique, it also requires training. Training has specific steps. This is the point!"

Ding Qi: "Yes, what you asked is the main point. Listening to what you just said, the psychologist's textbooks must have been read, but those textbooks only talked about the principles and principles of empathy, and did not introduce them. The requirements and steps of empathy training. These are often exercised in practice, and the degree of mastery varies from person to person.

The first requirement is not to bring in your own emotions, otherwise you will hear the other person tell something and add your own value judgment, the emotion will immediately rise, so it will be difficult to understand the other person. The second requirement is to forget oneself and treat the other person as oneself. People's spiritual activities have common laws, and common experiences have common feelings.

Of course, people are not the same. For example, the emotional differences between men and women are very different. This should be based on understanding the other's emotional response as much as possible and requires observation. Therefore, you must forget yourself, but you can't really give up yourself..."

What Ding Qi said was actually what Liu Feng taught in class back then. At this moment, when he relays it to others, he already has a very clear understanding and experience. This Mr. Zhuang was very interesting. He even discussed professional issues with Ding Qi, and his "academic research" seemed to be different from Tan Hanchuan and Shi Buquan.

Ding Qi's introduction came to an end. Zhuang Mengzhou thoughtfully said: "It's not difficult to understand after listening to you, but most people still don't."

Ding Qi couldn’t help but laughed again: “You can understand it, how can you listen to it? This requires training and mastering in practice. It is a practical technique and cannot be understood as a work attitude. ."

Zhuang Mengzhou also smiled and said: "According to what Teacher Ding said, the aunt of the neighborhood committee should also master the empathy technique?"

Ding Qi: "Not all neighborhood committee aunts. You should be referring to community mediators. I was commissioned by the school mental health center to train community mediators in Jinghu City, and talked about Principles and principles of emotional technology.

First of all, you must not bring your own emotions into it, but you must not be infected by the other party's emotions and lose your judgment. The work of community mediators is similar to that of psychologists, but there are also obvious differences. They need to bring social value judgments at any time..."

Zhuang Mengzhou touched his chin and said: "Teacher Ding is very professional, really professional! There is a saying in the world that when a **** speaks, he will know if he has it. In fact, no matter who he is, no matter what he claims to be. , And ask him a few questions, and it’s often clear in my heart.

Let's continue to discuss the aunt of the neighborhood committee. You can't be infected by the other party's emotions and lose your judgment. Since there is such a phenomenon of empathy, then there should be empathy. Does this situation belong to empathy? "

Ding Qi: "Your statement is unprofessional. Empathy is technically divided into empathizers and empathizers. But empathy itself is being empathized. You feel the other person’s experience, but Still maintaining a sober self. As for the phenomenon you mentioned, it is precisely because the empathy technique has not been mastered."

Zhuang Mengzhou suddenly changed his words: "Teacher Ding’s technique almost broke through the extreme of empathy, right? You once put three different people into a deep hypnosis state and found that they were all in the same place. But you can So for sure, that is a world that exists in reality but has not been discovered, which means that you should also go in.

This is not a simple empathy, nor is it a general synesthetic phenomenon in psychology. I borrowed another term. You are actually an "entry". You did not imagine it through the description of the other person under deep hypnosis, but a real experience, and you went to where they were at that time! "

Ding Qi was shocked again. Earlier, he only mentioned in his description of Xian Hao that he had mastered a special talent through professional training.

Ding Qi said with emotion: "Mr. Zhuang, although it is the first time I have met, how come I feel like you have seen it through?"

Zhuang Mengzhou patted Ding Qi on the shoulder and said: "I'm here for this, of course, I have to ask as much as possible. Don't be surprised, Teacher Ding, what I just said was just a fairy tale."

Ding Qi was taken aback: "Speaking of the gods of the rivers and lakes?"

Zhuang Mengzhou: "For Teacher Ding, the principle is also very simple. Take the guess in your heart as a positive judgment. It doesn't matter if you say it wrong. It's just a normal chat. If you say it right, it will give people a feeling. It’s like a magical thing, and it can even see through people at a glance.

I have read various reports on the incident in the Ankang Hospital of Transit Lake City, and listened to Xiaohua relaying how you discovered the outside world. Before you came, there were a lot of speculations, including speculations about you. Just say it directly, it will feel very different to you, the client. "

Ding Qi couldn't laugh or cry: "That's it! Mr. Zhuang, you are actually removing the threshold by doing this."

Zhuang Mengzhou said in surprise: "Teacher Ding knows this too?"

What threshold did Zhuang Mengzhou demolish? On the surface, he was tearing down his own threshold. First, he demonstrated some startling routines, which made Ding Qi continue to be surprised, and then he said it all, and then made Ding Qi feel suddenly realized. To break through his own doorway is actually breaking down Dingqi's threshold—the psychological threshold.

Ding Qi's mentality must be both curious and defensive for the geniuses who met on the first day, and he is also the most mysterious stunner in the legend. This way of communication will unknowingly narrow the psychological distance and release Ding Qi's mentality a little bit. The trust will become stronger and stronger, and he will unconsciously say a lot of things that he did not intend to say.

Ding Qi is not completely a rookie now, not to mention that he is a professional in this field, so he simply pointed it out and asked with a smile: "Mr. Ye from Boci Medical recommended me to read a book. , Is an online novel with an introduction to the eight gates of the rivers and lakes.

Interestingly, I also saw a cultural relic appraisal expert named Zhou Xiaoxian in the book. Shi Buquan’s tutor was Zhou Xiaoxuan, who was also an expert in cultural relic appraisal, and he also had this nickname, and his name was still a homophonic of Zhou Xiaoxian. What are you saying about this? "

Zhuang Mengzhou smiled and said: "Art comes from life! It must be someone who has heard of Zhou Xiaoxuan's deeds. Using him as a character prototype, he also wrote that person in the book."

Ding Qi: "But there is another person named Zhou Mengzhuang in the book, whose name is too similar to yours. What is going on?"

Zhuang Mengzhou laughed loudly and said: "So I am so famous? I must have heard of my deeds in the arena, that's why I created such a character!... Ding, don’t talk about it, they After seeing the paintings painted by Xiaojinghu, you must have them with you. Can you show me first?"

Ding Qi: "Did Mr. Zhuang not see Xiaojing Lake just now?"

Zhuang Mengzhou: "To tell the truth, I really didn't see it clearly. The secret sacred art of Jianghu Jingmen needs to be led by things that are predestined. It's like the so-called Jingmen divine calculation, never speak out of thin air."

These words are a little unpredictable, and Ding Qi doesn't know whether it is true or not. Ding Qi really carried one of the pictures depicting Xiaojing Lake, which was painted by Shi Buquan. He took out the folded picture and handed it to Zhuang Mengzhou. But Ding Qi was deeply moved by the words after Zhuang Mengzhou.

The so-called "shocking the door", of course, is not talking out of thin air. For example, Zhuang Mengzhou bluffed Shang Ni for a while yesterday, in fact, he knew her situation a long time ago. Another example is what Zhuang Mengzhou said just now. This is not a random guess, but a reasonable judgment made after understanding the relevant background information.

But the secret magic of the shocking door needs to be led by things that are predestined. What does this mean? Ding Qi didn't understand. Tan Hanchuan's previous double-blind test is to try to avoid this influence, so as to eliminate the possibility of psychological hints. But Zhuang Mengzhou is better, and he has to borrow other people's paintings directly.

Zhuang Mengzhou took the painting and opened it, and only glanced at it. Ding Qi observed very carefully, he really only glanced at it, then turned his head and looked out the door, showing a daze. This kind of subtle and natural expression reaction is difficult to disguise. Zhuang Mengzhou doesn't seem to have to disguise anything in front of Ding Qi. As far as Ding Qi feels, he really saw Xiaojinghu.

Zhuang Mengzhou folded the painting and returned it to Ding Qi, saying, "Thank you, Mr. Ding!... I would like to ask you one more question. The empathy discussed just now is empathy with others, so you can Do you have empathy with the world?"

Ding Qi asked subconsciously: "Is there love in the world? The ancients have a poem, if the sky is love, the sky is also old."

Zhuang Mengzhou also asked with a smile: "Who said that the sky is not old? There is also the idiom "Heavenly wasteland is old" in Chinese, otherwise, how to use the secret heart technique?"

Ding Qi was really shocked this time, because this is the question he has been pondering recently. Is there love in heaven and earth? The so-called sentiment here may not refer to human emotions, but a statement closer to Buddhism. For Ding Qi, it is whether the world has consciousness, and if so, what kind of consciousness is it?

Isn’t it his latest experience to empathize with heaven and earth? The summary is so accurate that Ding Qi himself hadn't thought of it before!