In The DC World With Marvel Chat Group Chapter 1882: Madman’s Journey (58)

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"People often make a mistake when it comes to techniques to gain the trust of others." Nick held up a finger and said: "Newbies always like to add, thinking that the more they explain, the more trust they can gain. ."

“But in fact, there are not many people with empathy in this world. It is impossible and useless for everyone to spend energy understanding the situation of others. Usually, people feel the same when meeting strangers for the first time. The mind is the strongest."

“Out of vigilance and curiosity towards unfamiliar people, the instinct of social creatures will allow them to understand who the other person is as much as possible and determine how to get along with him. But after becoming a little familiar, this This instinct will no longer be activated."

"Therefore, there is a saying in the agent industry called the golden thirty seconds, which means that if you do not gain the trust of a person within thirty seconds of meeting him for the first time, it will be difficult to regain his trust. I have completely gained the other party’s trust.”

"Coulson did an especially good job in this regard." Natasha said: "He was able to become a senior agent of SHIELD all the way despite insufficient force value. He relied on his special talents. An agent who doesn't look like an agent."

"He can be anyone, a neighbor who goes out to take out the garbage, a policeman who posts a ticket, a social worker who trims flowers and shrubs, or just a passerby walking his dog. When he greets strangers, almost no one will suspect him. , and I can’t.”

Natasha shrugged and said: "The more proficient an agent is in confrontation, the more tension there is that is difficult to ignore. Just like the one in charge of sentry among the meerkats, we are too sensitive to the slightest disturbance. It’s hard to feel relaxed like ordinary people, but Colson can always stay relaxed."

"Back to the topic, ma'am." Nick brought the slightly off-topic topic back, and continued: "In my opinion, Eric made such a mistake. In one meeting, you didn’t lay a good enough foundation.”

"But it seems that at the beginning, I in the other universe trusted him." Stark said.

"Yes, but that was based on Eric being Tony's savior. In other words, he saved his life without even gaining deep trust. These golden thirty seconds Nei Nei's performance can be said to be a complete failure, but he did not realize this."

Nick took another sip of wine and grinned. He turned back to look at T'Challa. T'Challa smiled at him and said, "Wakanda's specialty is not bad, isn't it?"

Nick also smiled and said: "It's so exciting, man. I hope it doesn't mess up my brain, I will continue."

"Then let's compare Schiller's performance when he first met Tony in this universe." Nick then analyzed: "What did Schiller do within the first thirty seconds of meeting Tony? ?"

"They said a few words." Stark recalled saying, "Probably introducing themselves to each other?"

Nick shook his head and pointed out: "Schiller helped Tony take off the hood, and the first thing he did was make physical contact with the other party."

"In most cases, gentle physical contact is helpful in gaining the other person's trust. A pat on the shoulder, a pat on the arm, or a bump on the elbow, especially when the other person is panicking, can go a long way. Soothe others' emotions."

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"Then Schiller called out Stark's name. This was telling Stark that I have heard of you and that you are famous. It is essentially a gesture of acceptance."

"The group of people who kidnapped Tony did not regard him as a human being at all. They were too rough and had a sense of alienation from civilized society, but Schiller recognized Stark's behavior and pulled Tony back. This is the way of communication that Tony is accustomed to and likes, which can further comfort him."

"Then he showed Stark the most distinctive part of his appearance, obviously the gray eyes, which was helping Tony construct his image in his mind."

“The fastest way for others to remember you is to symbolize yourself. Red hair, a rosy nose, and big feet are all significant enough features. This is the basis for establishing a three-dimensional image.”

"And the best part is here." Nick took another sip of wine, and then raised his tone and said: "Tony instinctively began to question, suspecting that Schiller was sent by the kidnappers to supervise him, but what did Schiller do? ?"

"He did not express his goodwill. He clearly stated that he and the kidnappers were in a cooperative relationship to some extent."

"What's going on?" Eddie frowned and asked, "Wouldn't this make Tony wary?"

Nick shook his head and said: "As I said before, the most stable relationship between people is the interest relationship. Schiller's move is to emphasize to Tony that 'we are grasshoppers on the same rope'."

"He said he was a doctor and came to treat Tony. He would be fine if Tony was cured. He might also be in trouble if Tony died. This immediately put the two of them on the same front."

“You can’t expect someone to resonate emotionally with you the first time they meet you. Common interests are often a necessary condition for establishing an initial relationship. Only when interests are tied together can in-depth understanding be possible.”

"Of course, Eric did this." Nick shrugged lightly and said: "After he rescued Stark, he drove him away. At that time, their lives and deaths were tied together. Either run away together or be killed together. This is actually a good start, but he did one thing wrong."

"What is that?" Thor asked curiously.

"He actually asked Tony to call Pepper." Nick spread his hands and said helplessly: "This is what I mean, he is a complete amateur, relying only on talent and instinct, and has never learned anything. Theoretical knowledge."

“When you and a person begin to have entanglements due to common interests, if you want to work harmoniously with the other person for a long time, the initial period is very important, and the first step is to try to create a closed environment."

"It's not about creating a space where only the two of you are, but trying to get the other person to focus more on you, constantly involving his energy, and making him either out of curiosity or... I accidentally learned more about you."

"It sounds a bit like bird courtship." Eddie said with his elbows on the armrest of the sofa: "Spread out the bright feathers to attract the other person's attention, so that they can't look away, so they can understand you. More advantages."

"I insist that humans are still members of the animal kingdom, and that human psychology and animal psychology have similarities." Nick nodded.

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"Eric allowed Stark to pour his emotions into Pepper on the other end of the phone. He felt that he could express his understanding. Maybe he also thought that Stark and Pepper were in conflict. Love has nothing to do with the friendship you want to build."

"But in fact, human feelings are always exclusive. The feelings that can be projected to other people within a certain period of time are limited. If he uses other people as an outlet to vent his emotions, no matter what, you can only You can get less."

"So what Eric should do is to let the other party project all his emotions on him as soon as he establishes common interests, because only in this way can the other party be more willing to understand him deeply, and can he be more willing to understand him in depth. It will leave a more profound and three-dimensional impression in the heart, otherwise it will just be a chance encounter, a passing guest, what is the difference between it and a friend who is a fair-weather friend?"

Stark thought it made sense, so he nodded, but soon he realized: "Wait, isn't this how Schiller has always dealt with us?"

"In principle, it is like this." Nick shrugged and said, "But just like the difference between an apprentice and a master, what Schiller did was not very deliberate, so it was naturally not easy to be discovered."

Stark frowned deeply. He recalled Schiller's every move in the cave, but he did not grasp the key point. At this time, Natasha said: "The natural thing is that he It will make you feel that you are curious and insist on asking about his past."

The female agent pushed her hair behind her ears and said: "First, use an unreasonable fact to arouse the other party's interest. For example, Schiller said to Tony in this universe at the beginning, 'I don't escape because I am the one who escapes. Here, human beings are interested in all kinds of unreasonable facts, regardless of whether there is danger hidden behind them."

"Then say a fact that shocks the other party. For example, Schiller told Tony that he had a surgical license. This cannot be said to be unreasonable, but it is a bit shocking in this environment."

"This completely aroused Tony's curiosity." Natasha stretched out the five fingers of one hand and gestured, then tightened them and said: "After the impact of these two facts, Anyone would start to wonder, why would an American doctor with a legitimate surgical license flee to a cave in Afghanistan?"

"So Tony asked, and Schiller threw out his next trap." Nick chuckled and said, "Schiller told Tony a secret."

"Sharing secrets is a necessary part of building a solid relationship. The more important the secret, the more people will feel that the other person trusts you. And what Schiller told Tony about his life experience is obviously a very important secret. After all, it involves The FBI, CIA, military and a host of big shots."

Natasha pursed her lips and continued: "At that time, it was too late if you didn't want to hear it. You asked yourself, and he already told half of it. Even if it may bring you trouble, you can If you interrupt him now, aren't you taking the risk and not hearing the secret? Wouldn't that be a complete loss?"

Nick laughed lowly, obviously thinking of something, but after being glared at by Natasha, he restrained his smile and continued: "Of course, the trick to gain trust more easily than sharing secrets is to take the initiative to expose yourself. Minor shortcomings, or advantages disguised as shortcomings."

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"For example ~IndoMTL.com~ You can say to others that you are a little careless, but it actually means that you are generous and generous. You can say to others that you are sometimes too quiet, but it actually means that you are good at listening. , you can say that you are literate, but you are actually saying that you have good literary quality."

"The specific way of expression can be: first, talk about your shortcomings, but say that others have influenced you, and then start to praise that person's advantages in such aspects."

"For example, 'I've always been a bit sloppy, maybe I inherited it from my parents. As you know, my dad is a very bold and bold Texan. He has taught me since I was a child not to care too much about things, and to be loyal when getting along with friends. '."

"Second, say this is the evaluation given to you by others, but show the advantages of this direction in your speech."

"For example, 'My friends always say that I am too quiet sometimes. In fact, I am fascinated by listening to them. They are all very good people. I still remember that they said to me at that time... '."

"Third, say that this is a legacy habit brought to you by a noble or professional job."

"For example, 'Sorry, I'm a little concerned about the word you just said... I am a bit wordy and care about rigorous grammar. This is a habit left over from when I was working as a proofreader in a newspaper. In fact, I'm sorry'."

"Of course, these are all entry-level skills." Nick showed a mysterious smile and said: "The best trump card is of course the one used by Schiller."

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