Return To 1977 Chapter 526: A perfect match

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Hong Yanwu's outspokenness made Xuan Ye a little angry. When she heard this, she suddenly interrupted.

"Look at what you said about us, we are so bad? You are being extreme! People go to higher places, and water flows to lower places. Isn't it natural for people to pursue success throughout their lives? Isn't it natural for parents to do so? Isn’t it normal to ask children to make progress? Don’t ordinary people’s families also want their children to go to college, serve in the military, and find a good job? Also, people are social creatures, and everyone works together to build a complete society. Don't individuals in society need to care about other people's feelings? That's called selfishness! How can public order and civility be maintained if you choose yourself out like this?

Hong Yanwu saw that Xuan Ye was emotional and quickly restrained herself.

"Look at you, you are still in a hurry while talking? Well, even if I said it too much. It is a bit frivolous, hasty, and generalizing. Can I apologize to you for this?"

As he changed the topic, he started to take the lead again.

"But having said that, I am also asking these questions out of my feelings, not just talking nonsense. Before we continue talking, there is a premise that I hope you can understand. I don't mean to complain or ridicule anyone by saying this, I just hope that You understand that there are fundamental differences between us. As for whether what I said is correct or not, I will tell you and listen to it, and then we will discuss it..."

"For example, take parents' requirements for their children. Although they all hope that their children will be successful, there is still a cognitive difference between ordinary families and cadre families. What ordinary people think of as promising is their children's Have a good character and respect your parents. As for the specific fame and fortune, it is good to be able to advance, but if you are not able to advance, you will not be forced to do so. As for those who use dishonorable means to achieve their goals, they will be punished once their parents find out. Scorn and severe punishment. But parents will never be indifferent because their children make mistakes. They will do everything possible to get their children back on track and become an honest person. ”

"My own family is like this. The reason why I was arrested was because my biological father reported me. But I don't hate him, because he didn't want to give up on me, but to save me. Look at me now , my family is very concerned about me and won’t mention anything about my past. Their only hope is that I can be a good person, and they will support me unconditionally in whatever else I want to do. Even if I pick up **** and sweep the streets, they won’t feel embarrassed about me. As for others, does that matter to me?”

"But on the contrary, cadre families have different requirements for their children. Since the sense of hierarchy is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people from the work unit to the family, everything in their lives is determined by their official status. Therefore, these parents have been instilling in their children from an early age that they must be top-notch. Children’s elite consciousness. They are used to evaluating children based on test scores, school reviews and certificates. Without these, even if a child is good in other aspects, he will still be a worthless child in the eyes of his parents.

"And many people are accustomed to treating their children as subordinates and asking them to act according to their own baton. If I want to be a soldier, my son must be a soldier. If I want to be a diplomat, my son must be proficient in several foreign languages. If there is a slight violation, , must be severely punished. Isn't that what happened to Yang Weifan? He originally wanted to learn painting, but he was forced to join the army and had no right to choose his future. He could only be under the supervision of his parents.

"If the children really make mistakes, they will be punished even more. In the labor camp where I was sent, there was a cadre kid who worked at Beijing Film Studio. He was fighting with another cadre kid for his girlfriend. In. As a result, his family was deeply ashamed of him. In order not to affect the political status of other family members, his father actually drew a line with him and pushed him away when he was on parole for medical treatment and when he needed the family's help the most. To make a living in society."

"Actually, what I mean is that the difference between ordinary people and the children of cadres is not just about their bloodline. The fundamental difference between them lies in their growing environment. Most of the people are mediocre people who are content and happy, and there is no interaction between people. There are obvious class differences. As for the children of cadres, class consciousness is everywhere in their relationships. Except for those whose parents are too doting, others must be good and successful, otherwise they will have no place in life. The life will be seriously faded. Think about it, how can people in these two living conditions have a common language? So in real life, there are not many children of civilians and children of cadres who can form a family together. That’s it…”

Hong Yanwu's words almost made Xuan Ye feel uncomfortable, but although their words were harsh, they were objective facts that were common in her life, which made it difficult for her to find the words to refute several times.

In the end, after thinking about it, she could only say in a low voice, "What you said is still too absolute! Aren't you and Yang Weifan friends? Aren't we friends? And my parents are not what you said. They are just like that. He is very open-minded and often says that I can do whatever I want, including...including...the person I choose to live with in the future...as long as he has the courage to make progress..."

At this point, the topic came back again, and Xuan Ye couldn't help but look shy again, and the girl's feelings were undoubtedly revealed.

But Hong Yanwu found it a bit strenuous, so he frowned and sighed. After thinking for a while, he changed his angle and continued.

"Actually, I also admit that there are always individuals and exceptions in any group. Otherwise, among the cadres' children that I hate most, there would not be alternative elements like Yang Weifan and a kind and helpful woman like you. Of course, your parents are not bad either. Just looking at you, I know that your parents must be extraordinary and of high quality..."

These words made Xuan Ye happy, and she hurriedly agreed.

"Yes, yes, my parents are great. They are the most approachable. They are very kind to the guards, aunts and chefs at home. In the past, my father often participated in activities organized by our school Well, no matter what family they are, they are very kind, kind, and treat them equally..."

"But even so, cadres are still cadres, and ordinary people are still ordinary people. Certain group limitations and laws cannot be violated or broken by anyone. This is like the fish in the sea and the fish in the sky. Like all birds, they must follow the laws of nature. Birds cannot enter the water, and fish cannot fly.”

It turned out that Hong Yanwu was just making a false move, and his sudden U-turn immediately dispelled Ye Xuan's excitement, and she almost jumped up in excitement.

"What's wrong with you? Why do you keep changing your words back and forth? You make me really want to curse..."

"What I'm talking about is objective reality. Don't rush to deny it. I can prove it by just saying it. Didn't you say that your parents are liberal? Then do you dare to take me home to meet your parents?"

Xuan Ye was a little angry and answered without thinking.

"Why don't you dare to do this? How about you go to my house tomorrow and I will introduce you to them?"

Hong Yanwu shook his head.

"Then how do you introduce me? Tell the truth? Say that I am a prisoner of labor reform, that I wash pig intestines in a snack bar, that I teach you diving, and even take you to the park..."

Xuan Ye couldn't help but widen her eyes, finally realizing something was wrong.

"Oh my God! If you say that, then my father will be furious and lock me up!"

Hong Yanwu looked proud this time.

"Look. You know it yourself, which explains the problem. You can't even introduce me to them..."

Ye Xuan fell silent for a moment. After a long while, she said in a low voice, "In the final analysis, it's still a matter of work. If you want to change jobs, I can introduce you..."

But Hong Yanwu still firmly denied it.

"No! You still don't understand, that can't change the essential problem. People can change their clothes and jobs, but they can't change their family background, growth experience and ideology. You are still young, and you can't imagine that two people will meet together. So many questions. Don’t think that liking each other is everything.”

"We might as well imagine that if this kind of feeling really occurs. If a poor boy enters the family of a senior cadre, can he not feel guilty? Can he not feel inferior? No matter how hard he works, he can't keep up with what others can do with just one sentence. No matter how outstanding he is, he will be accused of using nepotism in the future. How much pressure will this kind of family put on him? How can a cadre family that is accustomed to judge heroes by success or failure look down on him? Poor boy? They will inevitably regard the poor boy as a speculator with a purpose. Will they be willing to introduce such a son-in-law to their relatives and friends?"

"The same goes for the converse, how do the 'princesses' of cadre families get along with the male family members of ordinary people? It is inevitable that their living habits, speech and behavior will not match each other. The most important thing is that the status difference is too big, and It will cause asymmetry in the relationship and cause the relationship to change. How will the man feel when he sees his parents treating the "princess" with caution? If his family is cared for by the woman's family, what will happen to him in the future? How can he stand up? His parents will also be worried about their son being wronged. Under various circumstances, it is strange that even if there is some good things in the beginning, it will be destroyed in the end. ..."

Ye Xuan had a headache, "What you said... is too complicated! I haven't thought about it, I haven't thought about it..."

He then started to cry, "Is it really destined that we can't be together just because of our family differences? How could it be? We are of the same family, isn't that the dregs of feudalism?"

Hong Yanwu quickly struck while the iron was hot.

"The words 'well-matched' may sound a bit feudal, but that is the experience summed up by the predecessors. There is a certain truth in 'marrying a woman from a low-class family, marrying a daughter from a high-class family'. I said this For half a day, I just want to tell you that it is not that it is impossible for me to be with you, but that it is impossible for all the children of ordinary people to be with you. Only by looking for your partner among the children of cadres will you be recognized by the family, both parties. Only then will you feel comfortable and have a good result. ”

It was torn apart and crushed into pieces. It was not a waste of time to go around in such a big circle. At this time, Ye Xuan finally said the words that Hong Yanwu wanted to hear the most.

"Could it be that I really misunderstood myself? You didn't treat me...from the beginning..."

Hong Yanwu felt relaxed all over. He quickly filled people in with good words.

"To be honest, that's true. Your personal conditions are too good. You are the apple of such a family's eye. I am not a fool. I know how can we have any wishful thinking when we live in one place and one day? Thank you for watching. He treated us as friends and was so willing to help, so I thought that I would treat you well and make you happy in the south. I really didn't expect that it would cause you trouble. La. But in my mind, you are a generous and kind person. You can understand other people’s difficulties, so you probably won’t blame me..."

Ye Xuan's eyes burst into tears for a moment, "I don't blame you, but I...what if I can't forget you? I tried, I didn't want to see you in the first place, but I can't do it..."

There is no way to avoid this. Hong Yanwu could only use his final move.

He smiled with a smile on his face and spoke in a relaxed manner.

"Don't say that. You think so because you are young and have a relatively blank relationship experience. In the future, as you get to know more people, you will find more and more outstanding people. It's like not eating. For those who are addicted to sugar, when they taste some soft white sugar, they think it is the best thing. But after eating fruit candy, plum candy, milk peanut candy and chocolate, they realize that there are so many good candies in the world. I'm flattered by his attention, but it's really unnecessary. At best, I'm a "Kanto candy", a popular thing, and it's very rough. Moreover, I have already found my favorite "candy", and we will get married next year. ..."

Xuan Ye’s tears were all suppressed by surprise.

"You, you already have a partner?"

Hong Yanwu continued to pretend to be a grandson, looking very coy.

"Oh...she is good at everything, but she is a few years older than me, so this matter has always made me embarrassed to speak..."