Return To 1977 Chapter 619: Open the solution

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"Hey!"

Sighing first, Shui Qing explained in a somewhat nonchalant manner.

"Xiao Wu, thank you for your concern. But you are still young and have no children. You cannot understand my heart as a mother. For the sake of my children, I have to do this..."

But these words made Hong Yanwu laugh.

Because in his previous life, the only emotional contribution he made without any conditions was probably to the daughter he once thought was his own flesh and blood. Although he has no experience in love, he has experience in being a father. How could you not understand Shui Qing?

Strictly speaking, he was particularly considerate of his parents and knew how to cherish family ties throughout his life. I also have a special love for children, which may be due to this factor.

"Sister, I understand your insistence, and I agree with your point of view. Children should go to daycare. It's good to learn to draw, sing, and get to know one, two, three, and four. It can broaden children's horizons. , and you can also learn how to get along with peers. Children, after learning to obey the rules and adapting to collective life in the nursery, they can better integrate into the school and social environment. But I think your approach is a bit too rough. I was too anxious and did not consider the feelings of the children and the elderly, which ruined a good thing."

"First of all, since the child is already scared, you cannot force him to send him to the nursery. Think about it from another perspective, from the first day, you just throw the child here and leave. A strange environment, a strange place How can a person adapt to a three-year-old child who is watched over by family members every day and is always in a familiar environment? Especially since there are no children as old as Xiaoying in the west courtyard, and she is a middle-schooler. I don’t know anyone, and I definitely feel lonely.”

"On the other hand, it would be better if you guide them step by step. For example, first bring the child to the nursery to play with the slides and swivel chairs, and see the indoor activities and living environment of the children in the nursery. Wait until she understands what is going on here. That's it, let Xiaoying participate in the children's games. As long as Xiaoying is familiar with other children and gets to know the aunt, you will no longer feel any fear or strangeness. , most children won’t be so resistant.”

After hearing this, Shui Qing immediately felt enlightened.

Yes, everything Hong Yanwu said is on point. But she didn't think of these problems, maybe she was too careless and too anxious. It’s true that only bystanders know better.

She no longer regarded Hong Yanwu as a layman and couldn't help but ask. "Xiao Wu, what do you think I should do next? What can I do now to make my children like the nursery?"

Hong Yanwu had already thought about it and suggested it unhurriedly.

"Now that the child's bad feelings have formed, we can only slowly ease and adjust. In my opinion, you should actually shorten the time your child spends in the nursery now. Because I go to deliver meals to the nursery. When I was there, I asked the people at the nursery. They said that Xiaoying was quite obedient in the morning, but started to act uncontrollably at noon. This was caused by the child's lack of patience and your being away for too long. How can the child be happy to be the last one to pick her up every day? Maybe, she thinks that going to the nursery is your punishment for her. Therefore, it is simply unrealistic for you to expect her to become better right now. Why don’t you stay for half a day from now on, kid..."

Shui Qing admitted that Hong Yanwu's suggestion was reasonable, but reality did not allow it. She couldn't help interrupting with a look of embarrassment on her face.

"How can that be done? I have to go to work and pick up the child at noon, then I..."

Unexpectedly, Hong Yanwu smiled again. It turned out that he had already made a plan.

"Don't worry, since I brought it up, I will definitely think of a solution for you. Don't I work in the morning shift? I will get off work as soon as lunch time is over. How about this, Quanzi and I will take care of the child for you Isn’t it okay to pick her up and take her back to your home?”

But this was a good thing, but Shui Qing still didn't look open-minded at all. Instead, he lowered his head hesitantly.

"Xiao Wu, I thank you for being so considerate for me. But I brought my children to live outside just because... because my mother and I..."

"You're angry, aren't you?"

Hong Yanwu broke the window paper and took the words. "Sister, actually this is the second point I wanted to tell you just now but didn't have time to say. You really don't understand the old man's heart."

"Look, you go to school, leave for three years, and come back once a week. For such a long time, Aunt Shui takes Xiaoying alone. Even when she goes out to sell something every day, she sells it. Xiao Zhuche took the child with her. She has to eat, drink, and take care of the whole family every day. Do you think it’s hard?”

"Who is she doing for? It's not for you that she is so kind to a child who is not related by blood. And she is kind-hearted. After taking care of the child for a long time, she has feelings for the child itself. Don't listen to her yet No matter how much she nags or complains, she actually loves the child more than anyone else. To put it bluntly, she is used to it. She never leaves Xiaoying hungry or cold. . It’s not easy to do this. ”

"So, when you take the child away for the first time, she feels empty, and she will definitely not be able to accept it emotionally. Can you still blame her? Like you told me just now, I can't understand you as a mother. But it’s the same thing. Since you are Xiaoying’s mother and Aunt Shui is your mother, you should be able to understand her. Anyway, I think being a parent has its own difficulties in every era. There is no child in the world who can truly worry about his parents."

Shui Qing blushed, she was indeed touched by Hong Yanwu's words. The expression was one of shame, shame, and regret. But his attitude was still a bit hesitant.

Of course Hong Yanwu knew why. Prescribe the right medicine and continue to advise.

"Sister, go home and take the initiative to be gentle with Aunt Shui. Don't feel embarrassed. There is nothing to be embarrassed about with your own mother. I know you are right, and it is a bit aggrieved to do so. But it is difficult for an upright official to deal with household chores. Is it necessary to distinguish between right and wrong in family matters? The most important thing is to be harmonious and not to hurt feelings."

"In addition, I think people often have a common problem, that is, the fragrance is far away and the smell is close. People are often tolerant to strangers, but they are harsh to those who care about them the most. We will always hurt the people who love us unconsciously, But once this happens, we will also be hurt. I dare to say that not only you are feeling uncomfortable, but Aunt Shui is also feeling uncomfortable now."

"Because you don't know, since you moved out with Xiaoying, Aunt Shui always likes to chat with me and Quanzi, obviously wanting to find out how you two are doing. Neither of us dare to say anything bad. , her eyes turned red, and then she sighed and walked away, which made everyone feel sad."

"One more thing, do you know that there is an aunt in our cafeteria who is forty or fifty years old and named Luo? She is about the same height as Aunt Shui. A few days ago, I and she delivered meals to the children in the nursery. Xiaoying saw With her back and apron on, she ran over and hugged her, saying "Grandma", and never let go. The children must have been talking about Grandma in front of you. Don't you know what the adults and children are thinking? Why did you come here? Go back, you will be relaxed when you go back, and it will be a good thing for everyone."

Shui Qing couldn't help but feel moved when the words came to this. She was completely moved.

Of course, in addition to being grateful to Hong Yanwu, she also sincerely admires him. Because she never thought that Hong Yanwu would be so insightful in family ethics. He actually taught her a lesson.

This doesn't look like the unruly boy who made the neighbors frown when he was a kid. It seems that how to behave in society cannot be learned by reading a few books.

"Xiao Wu, thank you. You know more about people and the world than I do. I am very ashamed."

"Oh, don't say that, it's not a conversation, it's just a few words."

"Really, I would like to thank you not only for your reminder today, but also for the adoption certificate you issued for me at the police station. If you hadn't helped me get this, I would have gotten it when Xiaoying went to the daycare. If it comes out, what kind of gossip will the company have to spread?"

"Sister, it's all a piece of cake. Don't take it to heart. But when it comes to this, I really have to tell you something extra. When you go to the cafeteria to eat in the future, don't serve the public soup. . If you want some soup, come to me and I’ll make it for you in the kitchen.”

Shui Qing couldn't help but feel curious again. "Why?"

I didn’t expect Hong Yanwu’s answer to be extremely shocking.

"Hey, you don't know. Last week, I saw a man standing there fetching soup for more than a minute. He was fetching soup with a spoon for a long time. I thought to myself, what is this? Hey, just when I was about to go over and ask, I saw him actually taking out a pair of glasses from the soup bucket. I dared to say that he dropped them when he was making soup. Look at you, we have found three similar incidents so far! Glasses, pens, and bunches of keys! That soup bucket is not a soup bucket, you say. Can I still drink?..."

Brush, the water is clear and the face is white. Sometimes knowing too much is really not a good thing.