Return To 1977 Chapter 621: Marriage events

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At the beginning of the 1980s, as a person born in the 1950s, as a member of the generation who went to the mountains and countryside, in terms of age, we have reached the age where we should start a family.

Even the oldest "third generation" people have been delayed very late under the call of "late marriage and late childbearing".

And if "getting married and establishing a career" is taken as the main symbol of a person's "socialization process", judging from the current social environment, most of the educated youth have returned to the city in the past few years. After returning to the city, I either went to work or worked as an individual.

Then "karma", whether good or bad, is already considered "established". As the saying goes, men should marry when they are young, and women should marry when they are young. It is natural to consider the next step.

It’s just this generation, precisely because it is a generation with a crazy “explosion” in population. Then from birth to death, they have to face all the difficulties and problems caused by too many peers. Every important aspect of life is destined to become a severe test that makes them feel embarrassed.

Marriage is no exception for them, and they also need to solve many practical problems.

First of all, someone needs to be married, that is, the "partner", the other half of the family.

But back then, people were full of revolutionary enthusiasm, and social tradition always equated "playing a gangster" with "playing a gangster," so those big men and women generally had no experience in this kind of thing.

At the same time, because we are getting older, boys and girls are no longer hazy. The purpose is to start a family and live a life. Time seemed urgent. How could they not be in a hurry?

To put it bluntly, everyone knows that there are a lot of "window papers" around, but the problem is how to find the "window" and which "window" to "poke".

In fact, the step of "finding the window" is easier to solve. Although there was no Internet, no QQ, and no mobile phones at that time, there were relatives and friends who could introduce me.

Because it is a common phenomenon, everyone wants to be single, so at this time, the number of people keeping **** and pulling fiber began to increase in society. As soon as work is done in each unit, everyone rushes to make an appointment.

It is the last step, who to choose, that becomes the biggest obstacle.

People at that time did not have the same concepts as today. They were cautious and prudent about marriage. Although divorce is legally possible, there is a lot of criticism and criticism about this issue in society. No one thinks that they can just take it as they please with the "regret medicine". Everyone still regards marriage as a "one-and-done" deal, and they should be picky as they should be.

In this regard, it would be easier if two people with poor conditions get together. Because we are basically self-aware, we can accommodate each other more pragmatically. If you give in one step and I take one step back, good things will happen.

I am afraid that for those who are not self-aware or have really good personal conditions, there will be many strange and varied reasons for rejection.

For example, women pick men.

"This man's spirit is polluted, and he is indifferent to the heroic deeds in the newspaper", "He actually doesn't know who Shu Ting is, and he hasn't read any of her poems", "He hasn't grown up yet, he always follows "Watching cartoons with his nephew", "His parents like to play mahjong, is that something good people play? Is that gambling?", "Liu Wenzheng's songs are so good, he doesn't like listening to men's songs at all", etc. wait.

The same goes for men who choose women.

"I'm pretty, but I always think my work clothes are dirty. It's too much trouble. Can the worker's work clothes not be dirty?", "This is romantic enough, but I love to dance too much. We are under strict investigation now, don't worry about this." Catch her again." "Although she has a good temper, she has five brothers. Who can stand it if the two of them quarrel with each other in the future?" "This is a pretentious person who considers himself a cadre's son and despises "Worker and peasant", "That one is really familiar to me. When we met, he asked me if I had any overseas connections. Are you looking for me or overseas connections?"

Using this standard, where is it so easy to find the right one? I'm afraid I won't wake up unless I choose myself as a "ruduiercai" with wilted roots and yellow leaves.

Secondly, starting a family requires money, which was also a very acute problem when the reform and opening up began.

Times have indeed changed. This is not like the days of "sports", when two bedrolls were put together in one place and it became a home. No one laughed, no comparisons.

Although society's pursuit of household appliances has not reached its peak and ferocity at this time, television has already opened the door to people's desires and has become the most desirable item. Especially the color TV, which is something that makes it difficult for anyone to walk away from it.

People nowadays have a compensatory mentality. Who doesn’t want their marriage to be more dignified? It can be regarded as a more or less satisfactory ending to the youth that has lost money.

But it is unrealistic to start from reality. In the early 1980s, the average worker's salary rose from 41.5 yuan to more than 60 yuan, which seemed to have gradually increased by 50%. However, after working hard for a year, he could only save a few hundred yuan. Compared with the new consumption concepts and consumer goods brought by the outside wind, they immediately became sluggish. This is a great embarrassment for ordinary people.

Of course, if you can't afford high-end home appliances right now, you can wait. At worst, the couple can save money and buy them slowly in the future. But furniture is a must-have item that must be purchased first.

No matter how many "legs" you have, a girl will be willing to get married, which sounds very philistine and tacky.

Think about it: an educated youth who jumped in line and returned to the capital finally found a family. The woman wants it, the man wants it, and there is nothing wrong with getting married once in a lifetime.

Compare it to today when I spend my parents’ money to show off and buy a house. At that time, it was really tough and tragic to use the money saved by scrimping on food and clothes to build a small family.

The current popular color is yellow for the floor. In addition to the wine cabinet, the necessary furniture also includes sofas. Since furniture still requires a ticket, many people hire carpenters to make it. Along the streets, carpenters can be seen working everywhere on empty streets.

And many ingenious people even do it themselves because of limited funds. Using some springs and sponges, they can create a pair of simple sofas with exposed armrests. Then cover it with a thread blanket with a pattern of "mountain tiger" or "welcoming pine", and it will look quite the same.

But no matter how much you save, you still have to pay most of it yourself.

Because people who have only been working for a few years have very limited savings, and it is also common for families with many children at that time. Brothers and sisters are getting married. How much can you expect from your parents?

So many people will have to pay debts for their marriages, causing famine.

Finally, in addition to people and money, there is another most critical problem, the lack of housing.

If there is no "person", you can find it in various ways. If you are short of money, you can borrow it, you can collect it, and then find a way to pay it back slowly, but if you are short of housing, there is no way.

So since the "marriage wave" came, the heads of the housing management departments of various units began to encounter a mixture of ice and fire. Some people smiled at them, some scolded them, and some even beat them when they were emotional.

Some families also quarreled endlessly because of this incident, and their relatives turned against each other. Some people even got into fights with their neighbors over building small houses.

In short, the importance of the house and the conflicts caused by it are becoming increasingly apparent.

As for Shui Qing and Hong Yanwen, in terms of marriage needs, they can be compared with the "old three".

They are all educated youths born in the 1969 generation. They are all 26 this year. Their age is not much better than that of the "old 3rd generation". It is inevitable that their families will be worried about them.

As far as their respective conditions are concerned, both of them are pretty good.

Not to mention all of them are college students, one is a handsome girl and the other is handsome.

Shui Qing's income is nearly double that of ordinary people. Hong Yanwen's family has a solid foundation.

Having a house with clean water is a bit of a disadvantage, because every unit gives priority to male employees. But if she can really find a colleague to marry, dual-career employment will become an advantage. What's more, no matter how you say "Polar Bear" is better than those units that have no employee housing at all, isn't it?

Needless to say, the Hong family has dozens of empty houses. How can they give Hong Yanwen a yard of his own?

To be honest, if Hong Yanwen and Shui Qing hadn't grown up together and had been neighbors for so long, no one would have the slightest intention to meet each other. The two of them would be quite suitable in all aspects.

In fact, it was not that no one wanted to facilitate this matter. In 1977, when the two were admitted to college and returned to the city, several neighbors talked about it half-jokingly.

But both families knew that their neighbors had a lot of trouble as in-laws, and they didn't want to cause trouble. Secondly, they asked their children separately. Shui Qing and Hong Yanwen kept talking about their studies first, but they all shook their heads and never mentioned the matter again.

So it can be seen from this point that most people are not optimistic about many things. Everything is fate.

I am afraid that these two people are absolute idealists emotionally because they have read too many books, and are far more delicate, sensitive and unique than others. If they can't find someone they like and are truly attracted to, given their temperament, I'm afraid they would rather not get married than give in.

In addition, even in the eyes of their respective families, these two people are not perfect.

Because Shui Qing took Shui Xiaoying with her, everything was focused on the children. In reality, she not only needs to consider Xiaoying's feelings, but also doesn't want to have children after marriage, which will definitely put most men away.

Although she was known as the "factory flower" in "Polar Bear", considering the people's concepts and ethics at the time, how many men were willing to make such a big sacrifice for other people's children?

Hong Yanwen is also in a state of being emotionally hurt, career blocked, and being reassigned. Now I am staying in Fangshan County, temporarily studying behind closed doors to relieve my depression. How could he fall in love with a girl from the capital in this situation?

On the other hand, according to the current popular concepts, since he knew that he would return to Beijing sooner or later, he would naturally not provoke the girls around him or accept the tender affection from others.

So, no matter Shui Qing or Hong Yanwen, if they want to solve their personal problems in their current situation, they may still have to wait a while.

But things in the world are so unpredictable, and many problems are not based on people's will at all.

Let's put aside Aunt Shui's worries about Shui Qing, but a sudden accident shocked the entire Hong family.

Hong Yanwen is actually getting married. And it was the enemy's daughter, Xu Chongya.